Devastated In Marital Bliss?

I don’t know this man I married!  My life has turned upside down! I am so hurt, heart broken, mad, frustrated, and overwhelmed right now. I can’t understand my own thoughts. I am flipping back and forth from devastation to antagonism and repugnance. I feel as if someone hijacked my life and head and left me in this terrible state of mind.

Less than 3 weeks ago on Tuesday Oct 8^th, my husband of 1 year and 3 months had an affair! I am overwhelmed just thinking about it. I am and have been physically ill since then with the thoughts that my husband stuck his dick into a stranger, without a condom!

My initial reaction was anger. How could he have done this to me? How did this happen to me? Why did it happen to me? I just don’t understand. I can’t wrap my thoughts around the man I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with, having sexual relations with another person.

Now he would try to argue the fact that it wasn’t an affair it was only a one night stand. It doesn’t matter what you call it, he was unfaithful. He likes to say we had an “indiscretion” in our marriage because of him. I want to scream at him, “indiscretion my ass, you FUCKED someone else other than your wife, I don’t care how you sugar coat it!

You might be thinking how do I know, or how did I find out?

 Well let me begin the story from the Sunday the 6^th. The kids went to their grandparents’ house for fall break, I worked all weekend and Sunday was the last night I had with him before I went out of town to see my sisters for a week of sisterly fun at the beach. I got off work I came home and he wanted to take me out to dinner. So we went to Appleby’s for a bite to eat and a couple drinks. Then the next morning I got up and drove the 6 hours to my sister’s house.

Monday was good I got to my sister’s at noon her time and I picked her up and we went out to lunch then picked up my nephews from school, made dinner and drank a bottle of wine. Tuesday my youngest sister and I took the kids to school, and then we headed to the beach all alone for the entire day. It was beautiful and relaxing. We went to lunch, hung out till dinner time then went home grilled out and drank a bottle of wine. Talked to my husband several time during all this. The usual, “when will you be home, I miss you, I love you” ….blah blah …. Wednesday we went to my older sisters’ house then shopping at the outlet center and lunch and dinner out then home to drink a bottle wine. Thursday we got up went to the mall and hung out shopping all day and eating lunch and just enjoying out last day together till next year, we did NOT drink a bottle of wine this night; I needed water!

Friday morning earlier than planned, I left to go home at 2:45 am! I was excited to be on my way to see my sexy husband and slip into a new lingerie outfit I bought. So two hours earlier than he had anticipated I pulled into my driveway, his car wasn’t home. I rushed in slipped into my batgirl outfit from head to toe, the black and yellow corset the black garter belt with thigh high sheer black stockings attached, with matching yellow string tied g- string with my knee high black leather boots on…..threw some makeup on and done my hair in a sexy tossed way, with some nice juicy red lipstick on!

I did all this, with no sight of him at all. So I tried to call him and beside the bed, his phone was ringing! So I pick it up, and on the screen it says “new text message”. So I open it, to my dismay it said…” thank you for the hookup and if you would like to try it again with a little less alcohol next time give me a call.”

Now picture this I am standing in my bedroom in a head to toe leather batgirl outfit with my husband phone in my hand when he walks in! Yes I’m very serious!

I call the girl, she is positive that she didn’t send the text to the wrong number. I am furious!

This girl talks to me and tells me every detail of their “indiscretion”! How he followed her from one bar to the next and was buying her drinks, wrote his name and number down for her, telling her he was divorced and his teenage daughter lived with her mom, wasn’t wearing his wedding ring. Then he followed her home and they fucked WITHOUT a condom, and he stayed the night and left on Wednesday morning.

This girl is not pretty, she isn’t even cute. She is not someone you would take home to your mom or be proud to show her off. She is fat and ugly with a butch hair cut and just looks dirty. I know this because she sent him a picture!

I just don’t understand why. You would think that if a man has an affair he would make sure it would be with someone worth loosing his wife, family, life, home and breaking his marriage vows for. Trust me she wasn’t that girl!

I just don’t know what I am going to do. Overwhelmed with feelings!

A Sexual Prenuptial?

I am needing some sex! From my husband that is! We can't seem to coordinate our sex life to accommodate each other! Is there a secret to it? Have I miss placed a manual somewhere? I wonder why I never thought of a sexual prenuptial? Does it really exist? Well apparently there is, and I should have known before..

 .......Legal Zoom actually has documents to help people with Sexual agreements before, during, and even after marriage! What ? Oh my I must have been hiding under a rock! Or maybe I just assumed that being a newly wed makes you desirable!

 So on Legal Zoom here's what I found!

"Sexual issues in prenuptial agreements can include how often a couple will have sex. One elderly pair settled on once a month, while a younger couple agreed to 3-4 times a week. Other couples stipulated mandatory sexual positions.".....

Are they serious? Someone would actually stipulate sexual positions? Just what kind of details would that include? I'm just curious........

I'm thinking maybe something like .......

You must kiss me every night before bed and kiss me every morning before leaving and you must start at my lips and kiss every inch of me all the way to my knees, paying special attention to my breasts and my lady parts, making sure to entice me with your lips, tongue and breath for at least two hours a week.........with no maximum limit of course! :) In addition to sex in any position you want at least one day a week at your desired time and location, with at least two other sexual encounters a week with me for life!

I don't feel like that is too much to ask!

I Am Still Alive!

Wow, it's been a long time. I will try to get caught up on all of my fellow bloggers posts and type out a few of mine this week....If anyone is still following .....if not I will still try lol ......So here's to getting a glass/bottle of wine and drafting a few posts to night and hopefully getting caught up on my blog! Oh how I have missed my blog! Toast!

Lets Get Naked!

If you have read my blog previously you know that I grew up in an unconventional kind of home, with an odd set of parents. They made their way through this world with their own set of rules, a made up religion of parts others religions, and little to no common sense. There were no family values on raising children, and since I was born in the era of free love and drugs common sense would have been a great asset to my parents for raising us kids.

 

 I don’t condone nor agree with any of my parents’ parental guidance; however I could go back to living in a nudist community. There is always a good reason to get naked. No, I’m not into free love and drugs, but I do love the freedom and wholeness being naked makes me feel.

 

Uncomfortable clothing is just that, uncomfortable it distracts you from your daily functions and makes you miserable. They pinch and bunch and never fit right. Clothing for me is concealing and confining. Don’t take it as I have never found clothes that fit, I do, even though their few and far between. That doesn’t mean they are comfortable. Not to forget clothing is expensive.    

There is a freedom in being naked that few enjoy because we have learned through society
to be embarrassed. It is true we learned to be embarrassed. We probably learned this from Adam and Eve in biblical times, to cover up and be ashamed of our bodies.

My parents never instilled this since of shame on me; since they had no sense of a normal religion must less a Christian one. My father has claimed to be Mormon my entire life and my mom never affiliated herself with any one religion, so they made their way with kids in tow, through life making things up as they went. Hence the free love, drugs, and nudist colonies.    

 

The freedom of being naked makes me feel like there is nothing to hide behind, a deep
acceptance comes over me, and through this acceptance a deep calmness over takes me and gives me a sense of control and confidence in myself that I have felt before. It’s truly a unique empowerment that not everyone feels while their so open to others and vulnerable.

 

The feeling of being exposed is not for everyone, but you never know unless you try. Everyone should try doing laundry, cleaning the house, or any and everything naked! 

 

Got Naughty?

While naked in the shower the other day I was thinking I should start a naughty list….

No not an actual list, but instead a naughty guest blog list. I know everyone has a naughty side. I know some more than others, however not everyone has an anonymous blog. So I know that if your family and friends are on your blog, you probably don’t really say what you want all the time.

 Therefore I thought that I should host a naughty list for guest bloggers to post their naughty stories anonymously on my blog.

So here goes…. think of your naughtiest stories, fantasy or reality and email them to me at theanonymousperilsofassw75@yahoo.com make sure to think of an anonymous signature as well and sign your work or I will make one up for you  ……

I will not out you. I will not reveal any information except your blog post. I do not need any personal info just send me any naughty thoughts you have and I’ll post them anonymously as your naughty outlet, on my naughty list!

NO RULES just two suggestions:

1. Make sure you sign your work or I will make up a signature for you.

2. Make sure you spell check your work. I will NOT edit your work.

Let the naughtiness begin!

Where Did Passion Go?

I'm sitting in my bed with my husband's laptop blogging naked while he is at work. I often do this while he is at home and upstairs watching movies or playing an online game, trying to wait me out and make sure I'm asleep before he comes downstairs for fear that I'll want sex! This has been a regular occurrence since we he has gained a few extra pounds that he isn't use to having.

Ok I get it, he doesn't feel sexy...and he doesn't like the extra weight he has acquired in the last six months, but who does...That by no means,  means that his wife doesn't find him sexy and irresistible!

I'm all for naked! I'm all for hair-pulling push me up against a wall and have your way with me sex! He is the only man I know that would complain about his wife always wanting to get him naked and get frustrated for even mentioning sex to him.  So I really should not have told him the about the texting my and my BFF were texting but he asked and I told him the truth. He was not at all thrilled that I was discussing our sex life lack of a sex life with anyone, however if he isn't willing to talk about it I only have two options..one being my BFF and the other is blogging about it.

Anyway she sent me a picture of this man laying beside his wife sleeping with a caption over his head that said....I thought we were going to have sex..I could be on the Internet right now!

I responded with, my husband does the opposite..he stays on the Internet until he is sure I'm asleep.

She responded "Oh poor D, he has a wife that is sex crazy. I'm sure he wouldn't complain to his buddy's about it"

in which I laughed and responded not a chance. This is when he walked in and asked my what was so funny and I showed him the texts.....He was not happy!

Why is he so disheveled about his weight , and why doesn't he do something about it instead of shunning his wife in the bedroom because he has body issues? I thought only women had these kind of issues.
I know a little that was a little stereotyping comment..sorry ladies, but it's true , that is what I thought.

I want my passionate husband back! I want the man that I texted one day last spring right after he left for work and said "come back I miss you" and he sent back "what would you want me to do if I did come back" and I responded in detail what I would want him to do to me and within twenty minutes he was back in our driveway fulfilling my every wish of pushing my up against the bedroom wall stripping my of every inch on clothing and having his way with me! :)   ! That is the man I want back in my presence please!

Appendage Abuse II "Carpe Scrotum"

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