I Was Called A Player, MILF, and a Cougar

In one week’s times I have been called a player, MILF, and a cougar. Not all by the same person but still got me thinking “what exacting are these people telling me”!

So, I googled them. Here’s what I found, from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

First the animal definition: A capable stalk-and-ambush predator, the cougar pursues a wide variety of prey. Now this definition definitely describes my sister, not me! Lol

Then further down the page the slang terms showed up: Several English slang terms describe pairings in which one individual is much older than the other:

Let me address these one at a time.

• Cougar—a woman, 40 years of age or older, who pursues younger men, typically more than eight years her junior. The term is also commonly applied to women that are thirty or older.

I have not and will not pursue men (i.e. boy toys and or cubs/tadpoles) younger than me, especially a man eight (8) or more years younger than me. That would mean they would be eight (8) years or less older than my oldest son! OMG that’s just wrong! So please don’t refer to me as a cougar.

• Cub/Tadpole—a younger male who is going out with an older partner, often paired with the term Cougar.

Now this term is fits in with the cougar term quite well, but mentions nothing about the age of the males or how much older is their partner.

• MILF (an acronym of "Mother [or 'Mom'] I'd Like/Love to Fuck")—a sexually desirable older woman, though not necessarily one who has children.

Ok, so I find this term vulgar yet flattering at the same time. I don’t mind someone finding me sexually desirable; however I do find it hard to believe and hard to swallow that they really have to put me in the “older woman” category?

• Puma—a woman in her late twenties and early thirties who dates a younger man (i.e., 20-somethings), often considered a "cougar in training". It also means a cougar whose age disparity is less than eight years.

Puma, now that sounds more like me. Though, I don’t prey on men. I have on occasion been the aggressor towards a man to let him know I’m interested, because as we all know men don’t read minds! Lol

• Toy boy/Boy toy—a much younger boyfriend or husband of an older woman. A toy boy characterizes the one who is (and usually enjoys being) used for sexual gratification.

Why do they not put age specifics on the male terms? Sexist Wikipedia!

My sister called me a “player”! No, not to my face, even worse, to a man that likes me. Yes, she is determined to be my demise on my dating/ single-hood. A man that asked her about me got told “if you’re looking for a relationship move on, she is a player”. Well I asked her about this statement and she said “I just told him that your single and you do what you want, when you want, because there’s no ring on your finger”. That doesn’t classify a player. I don’t string men along promising things. I tell them all up front I’m very happily and extremely single. They can be my friend and see where it goes or they can just go.
I’m still trying to decipher why my sister is sabotaging my single-hood! Maybe she is jealous, maybe she is truly sincere in thinking I would be happier with a husband…lmao Either way maybe I should “steer clear of my sister dear” until she calms down a bit.