A Look Back At A Creepy Jerk!

A few years ago a cocky skinny tall descent looking man (3yr gyno resident) walked into our department and began talking to me about one of his patients. My younger co-worker H was so in "awe" over him, I just didn't see it, I guess! Once he was satisfied with the patient information, he asked about my status.....really?....we are at work and I'm not interested! So I politely brush him off and sent him on his way.

A few days later he returned when I wasn't working to inquire about me. My friend and younger co-worker H still in "awe" was all jealous over him, but she tells him I'll be back in a few days and he can find me then. Sure enough he came back. Ugh I know I told him in English that I wasn't interested so why is he here again? So he was standing in my office telling me why I should accept a date from him, all while H was drooling over his shoulder and trying to get his attention. He finally talked me into a drink after work just to talk and see how it goes...(I knew how it would go, I wasn't into him).....

He picked me up after work, took me to a little Mexican restaurant with a live band and we sat down at the bar. I asked him a few questions while drinking my drink and didn't like any of the answers, of course. I finished my drink and asked him to take me back to my car. I thanked him for the drink and went on my way.

So he came back around our department but not to see me, he was hovering over H and seeing what she wanted. She wanted a relationship....well that wasn't his style.....he dragged her along for awhile pretending to like her, all while being a jerk and a major ass to her...

then one day out of the blue about about six months since he talked to me I got an "unavailable" call it was from him.......He said hi this BA and I said ok what do you want....he said I was talking to my best friend and was telling him about you and told him that I took you out and then never called you and he said that I was being rude and that I should call and apologize to you because I wouldn't have liked to have been treated that way by you. . . . . .I said "what"? ...."look I am not interested and I never was and I haven't even thought about it since then, you don't for any reason owe me an explanation or an apology. We aren't compatible so we went our separate ways. ..............Then there was silence ........He then said so can I take you out to make up for being rude to you........NO.......I'm not interested! Ok then well don't tell H that I called you please.............Whatever dude.....grow up. BA was 38 at the time and H was 23, he had been married and divorced and had 3 kids he didn't see but one weekend a month if that and he talked down about his kids mom....I was so telling her what I thought about this creep, but it didn't matter she was inf actuated with him.......ewe! Why?

Why do guy's act like that ? Why are there women out there who can't see through that? Does it come with age, our intuition about a creepy jerk? I wish younger women would have the balls to tell off jerks like that!

Is He A Misogynist?

I'm not going to lie, I had to google misogynist, I had no clue what it meant...OMG This definition sums it up about it...

WARNING:....A man who hates every bone in a woman's body, except his!

I seriously found this definition on google at www.urbandictionary.com/define

So I sent this definition to my friend and fellow blogger OilField Trash

He had stated in his blog that he had been accused of being a misogynist several times. Now I can't say that I have ever called anyone this word since I personally didn't have a clue what the hell it meant. However I'm pretty sure my ex-husband fits this definition perfectly! I think I should post a picture of him beside the definition on the urban dictionary website! So the opposite is called misandry, from the Greek, literally, meaning hatred of men. ...

Now O-T said "I'm not really one" and my response to him was "not really..makes you sound guilty?!" I went on to say I think that he may just be saying things that they don't want to hear...you know the truth hurts kind of stuff!

I think some PEOPLE need to grow up and listen sometimes. Not everything is a personal attack, and not every criticising opinion is bad, maybe its just a suggestive critique. Now I know men are sometimes PIGS...but seriously if every man you meet is a "misogynist", maybe your negative karma needs a shift in the moon alignments or something.

I have had my fair share of Misogynists, but as I get older and my brain is maturing I realize maybe I judged someone wrong. Maybe I jumped the gun and had an opinion formed just because I didn't want to form any other opinion.

There are those women who are man haters...not me of course I love men, and those men who are women haters! Those who would rather chew you up and spit you out than look at you. Yes you know the type!

However if jumping the gun and judging someone is a prejudice reaction, to something that they said or done, do they deserve a second chance?

I have a hunch that very few men or women are actually misogynists/misandrists . I mean I'm pretty damn sure Uran Vandersloot is definitely one and John Gardner is also and all of the other men/women who rape and beat and kill men/women are all misogynists/misandrist. I will by no means defend them or their actions.

A normal man/woman in your everyday life that isn't raping you , beating , or killing you probably isn't a misogynist/misandrist.

I REALLY THINK PEOPLE NEED TO SUCK IT UP AND STOP WHINING!

Not everything said is going to be your way ..this isn't Burger King! Also The truth isn't always your favorite flavor, but swallow it and get over it! Your not going to like everyone or even what everyone says or does, so why the HELL do you let these people dictate your feelings and your day?!

We should all Love our fellow bloggers! :)

Men Being Led Around

Let me start by saying not all men are dumb but even some of the smart ones make dumb choices, when being led around by their penis!

I was at a local comedy club with my sister and brother-in-law two years ago. We walked in got seated and was having appetizers when two couples were seated in front of us. Now this is a very very small comedy club but very popular the seats are practically on top of each other and there is no room to breathe. The small round tables were inches apart and so the couples in front of us were in our bubble so to speak, but so was the entire club.

The man directly in-front of me kept eyeballing me, he would wait till his date looked away or was talking to her friend and then flash a smile and a wink my way. When I didn't respond he slowly and ever so sneaky shifted his chair back further into our bubble reaching around with his arm on the other side of his body away from his date and preceded to rub my leg! WTH

My bro-in-law was furious as I slid back to try to get away from the creeps hand on my leg! As I did he looks back and motioned his head towards the bathroom! SERIOUSLY! This guy thought I'd follow him to the bathroom! My bro-in-law instead follows him to the bathroom where he informed him that if he continued to disrespect me and the woman he was with that he would bring his dates attention to the situation. In which the man calmly said "man why are you cock blocking me"! Seriously, this guy had the nerve!


He returns to his table before my bro-in-law returns and slips a napkin with his phone number on my leg just as my bro-in-law sits down at the table he was furious again, he reached over grabbed the napkin and politely handed it to his date by saying "I think you dropped this"! Yes the rest of the night went a little tensely and this guy still tried relentlessly to get me to follow him to the bathroom area to NO avail of course!

What exactly was going through his head?
I wonder sometimes why men do things like this! Then I remember that some of them let their penis control them and lead them around. It's like a penis leash!

This wasn't the first nor the last time my bro-in-law saved me from a creep! Stay tuned I'll post the next one soon!